1. Intimacy begins with yourself and the way you see and feel the world. You can be intimate with your own fear, sorrow or pain, with a friend during a conversation, or in contemplation with nature

2. Intimacy isn’t only available within a long-term committed relationship. Intimacy is present everywhere we turn. You only need to bring yourself fully here, to this moment, look around and acknowledge the beauty, diversity, interconnections.

3. Intimacy grows with time and attention. It’s a relationship between yourself and the world that deepens the more you open your mind, heart and body to the experience of being alive.

4. Intimacy can be nurtured through dialogue as well as through silence, through a solitary artistic process and within shared creative practice.

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4. Intimacy can be developed and sustained through writing, sitting in meditation, dancing or walking in nature.

5. The more intimate you become, the more you learn about yourself and others. Intimacy awakens curiosity and wonder.

6. Intimacy requires patience, openness to difference, suspension of beliefs or expectations, honouring of otherness.



7. Intimacy offers an opportunity to bear witness to your own and others’  joy and grief, turmoil and pleasure.

8. Intimacy breeds compassion. You can learn to have empathy for others through developing intimacy with yourself.

9. Intimacy rocks the boat of romantic love. It allows you to move from fantasy and instant gratification to delighting in the preciousness of every season and story of relationship.

10. Intimacy is available to everyone, partnered or single, gay or heterosexual, able or differently abled, black, white, Asian and Middle Eastern, young and elder. May all beings benefit from intimacy with themselves and others….


What does intimacy look like to you? Is it different than what your parents taught you? Join me on a Writing Alone Together Retreat to discover how you can cultivate intimacy with yourself and others. Learn more here…